Today's Blog is in response to a note from Shelly from California. Shelly asked for some standard guidelines to find healthy love:

Coach Lynn's simple advice for those who want to be loved:
1. Treat your Partner how you want to be treated.
2. Even if someone "chooses" you, decide whether you want to "choose" them. You have a right to choose you will be with.
3. You can't "change" the person you're involved with and you shouldn't have to.
4. If you can't be yourself, the relationship is no good for you.
5. Don't sabotage your relationship. You're worthy of being loved.
6. Don't bring your past relationship into your present one-especially old baggage.
7. Remember that your partner is not your personal psychotherapist or Coach. Hire a professional if you need help.
8. Negotiate the boundaries of your relationship on key matters like: finances, expectations, fidelity, children, the future. If your partner keeps crossing over the line, there is no respect!

Here is a sizzling hot vital tip for lovers:
Invariably, you will not completely agree on everything. However, when you don't agree and it results in a "fight" agree to ALWAYS FIGHT FOR THE GOOD OF THE RELATIONSHIP not for personal validation. You should already know you are a valuable human being!

And finally...Don't forget to laugh and enjoy your time together. Life is so short!
Prosper!