Do you suffer from panic attacks and anxiety attacks? You know the feeling.... it often comes along like gangbusters. You may have even ended up in an Emergency Room somewhere at some point. Some panic victims say that they find themselves drowning in tears or perspiration without a moments notice. Either way, when you get so worked up that your body throws itself in a state of panic, you lose your power. When you lose your personal power, that means, it is up for grabs.
Take your power back or find newfound personal power by learning how to manage yourself when you feel you are heading for an uncontrollable emotional and physical incapacitation.
First, answer these questions.
· What happens? Are there particular situations that bring on your panic?
· Panic attacks can feel like a heart attack because your heart beats faster, sometimes you hyperventilate.
· How does this affect your ability to have relationships with others?
· What are you afraid that others will discover about you if they get to know you better?
· Do you think you are a great person? Do you find yourself feeling that you must a certain way around other people based on what you think their perceptions are about you?
If you are preoccupied with what others may think of you or say about you, your anxiety and panic are stemming from an over sensitivity and concern to what others may think about you… When you give your personal power away to others, it gives them the power to design who and how you will be at any moment. What does it mean to you to hear that? It is giving a lot of power to people who do not even know you.
The truth about worrying about what others think of you or say about you is this: While you may think that other people are primarily concerned with what you do and every little thing you do, you couldn’t be more wrong. Most people are truly primarily concerned with themselves. They really don’t care that much about you. They are preoccupied with themselves! So, I want you to stop giving people your power. Here is an exercise you can use:
Develop a personal power plan.
Many times, new clients come in to my office and they have a very hard time holding themselves accountable for how their lives are. They blame someone else; they only deal with the anger from a situation; they stay stuck in the past;
They don’t see where they could have made different choices in the past. They don’t think that they have a choice in the present. They don’t know how to make a different choice in the future. But even when you don’t make a direct choice, you have made a passive choice. Even choosing not to make a choice is making a choice. But very often what you forget is that not choosing the direction of your life heeds negative consequences… you find yourself being a victim to someone else’s interpretations of what you or your life should look like or be like. You find yourself feeling a lack of control over your feelings, your relationships, where you work, where you live…
Here are four ways to make better choices that minimize panic and anxiety :
1) Ask yourself if your choice will bring you purpose, passion or power
2) Practice peace. Without an inner foundation of peace, you will seek validation or purpose outside of you. Concentrate on the inner side of your life – that is what personal power is. The ability to be at peace inside even when everything around you is not in a state of peace.
3) Avoid negative people or people who are always unhappy. Instead of focusing on problems, focus on having gratitude, creating vitality, and make conscious decisions to bring others around you that do the same.
4) Give natural beauty a prominent position in your personal power plan.
Seek to find something natural to marvel at every day. It may be the beauty of a flower, noticing the laughter of a child, cooking an organic meal. Natural beauty gives your soul a boost naturally.
5) Remember the golden rule: Treat others the way you should want to be treated, but the opposite is true also. Don’t let others treat you in ways that you would not treat them or yourself. Don’t give your power away by excusing inappropriate or hurtful behavior that is done to you.
