Monday, December 20, 2010

Coping With the Loss of a Loved One During the Holidays

Loss can be difficult and emotional at any time of year.  However, during the Holidays, it is for some, the most difficult time of year.  One of our listeners sent  us this wonderful article with tips on how you can better cope when you are missing your loved one these Holidays:



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    Everyone is faced with the challenge of coping with another persons death. This can be the death of a family member, friend, or even animal. Dealing with this loss during the holidays proves to be difficult for many. Holidays are a time of memories and celebration. It may become very painful to celebrate without the loved one. Feelings of loss, loneliness and depression increase during the holiday season.
    It is important to experience feelings associated with the loss, but it should not stop you from also celebrating the holiday.
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    If you have standing holiday plans, keep them--go to your in laws or sisters, etc. You should try to go to all standard activities. If you are the one that normally hosts the celebration, try hosting it but request help from other family members.
    Although you may not feel like celebrating, being alone and mourning will not be beneficial. It is helpful to be by those you love and who love you.
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    If you have other functions to attend, like work, have someone accompany with you. Most likely a friend, family member, or coworker will be willing to attend function with you. This helps to alleviate feeling of loneliness and offers a great sense of support.
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    Go to a support group. Grief and loss support groups are always helpful. It is run and attended by others going thru grief and loss. Support groups are especially helpful during the holidays, as talking with others in similar situations can offer comfort, support and guidance.
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    If you are religious, attending a mass or meeting with a church clergyman can be helpful to coping with loss during the holidays.
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    Volunteer-It may sound like the last thing you would want to do, but helping others in need is rewarding on its own. In addition, helping others can lift your spirits, give a sense of purpose, give a sense of hope, and give a sense of gratitude.


Friday, December 17, 2010

Coach Lynn Show: Healthy Christmas Recipe!!!

Coach Lynn Show: Healthy Christmas Recipe!!!: "You can eat healthily over the holidays! No reason to stress because you are anticipating that your best dieting efforts will land you..."

Healthy Christmas Recipe!!!

You can eat healthily over the holidays!  No reason to stress because you are anticipating that your best dieting efforts will land you on "the naughty list!"  Did you know that over 80% of Americans gain more than 10 pounds over the Holiday because of all of the festivities?  Well, if you don' want to have to take a trip with the ghost of Christmas past just to get back to a normal healthy weight, consider this healthy but delicious holiday recipe!Spiral Stuffed Turkey Breast with Cider Gravy Recipe8 servings   Active Time: Total Time: INGREDIENTSSTUFFING
  • 2 teaspoons extra-virgin olive oil
  • 1 cup finely chopped onion
  • 1/2 cup finely chopped celery
  • 2 cloves garlic, minced
  • 1/2 cup fresh whole-wheat breadcrumbs
  • 3 tablespoons chopped fresh parsley
  • 1 tablespoon chopped fresh thyme, or 1 teaspoon dried
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons chopped fresh sage, or 1/2 teaspoon crumbled dried (not ground)
  • 1/4 teaspoon salt, or to taste
  • Freshly ground pepper, to taste

TURKEY & GRAVY

  • 1 2-pound boneless turkey breast half
  • 1/4 teaspoon salt, or to taste
  • Freshly ground pepper, to taste
  • 4 teaspoons extra-virgin olive oil, divided
  • 1 cup apple cider
  • 1/2 cup reduced-sodium chicken broth
  • 1 cup onion, coarsely chopped
  • 2 cloves garlic, crushed and peeled
  • 8 sprigs fresh thyme, or 1 teaspoon dried
  • 4 teaspoons cornstarch
  • 2 tablespoons water
  • 1/4 cup reduced-fat sour cream
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons Dijon mustard
  • 1 teaspoon lemon juice

PREPARATION

  1. Preheat oven to 300°F.
  2. To prepare stuffing: Heat oil in a medium nonstick skillet over medium heat. Add onion and celery; cook, stirring often, until softened, 2 to 4 minutes. Add garlic and cook, stirring, for 30 seconds. Remove from heat and stir in breadcrumbs, parsley, thyme, sage, 1/4 teaspoon salt and pepper.
  3. To prepare turkey: Remove skin from turkey breast and trim off fat. Butterfly the turkey breast (see Tip). Flatten the turkey breast. Spread the stuffing over the breast and roll the breast up into a cylinder. Secure with kitchen string.
  4. Sprinkle the turkey roulade with 1/4 teaspoon salt and pepper. Heat 2 teaspoons oil in a large cast-iron or nonstick skillet over medium-high heat. Add the roulade and cook, turning from time to time, until browned all over, 5 to 7 minutes. Transfer to a plate. Add cider to the skillet and bring to a simmer, stirring to scrape up any browned bits. Add broth and bring to a simmer. Remove from heat.
  5. Heat the remaining 2 teaspoons oil in a Dutch oven over medium heat. Add onion and cook, stirring often, until softened, 2 to 3 minutes. Add garlic and cook, stirring, for 30 seconds. Add the browned turkey roulade. Pour in the cider mixture, then add thyme sprigs (or dried thyme). Cover the pan and transfer it to the oven.
  6. Bake the roulade until it is no longer pink inside and an instant-read thermometer inserted in the center registers 170°, 45 minutes to 1 hour. Transfer to a carving board, tent with foil and keep warm.
  7. To prepare gravy: Strain the liquid from the Dutch oven into a medium saucepan, pressing on the solids. Bring to a simmer over medium-high heat; cook for 2 to 3 minutes to intensify the flavor. Mix cornstarch and water in a small bowl; add to the simmering gravy, whisking until lightly thickened. Add sour cream, mustard and lemon juice, whisking until smooth. Season with pepper. Heat through.
  8. Remove the string from the roulade. Carve into 1/2-inch-thick slices and serve with gravy.

TIPS & NOTES

  • Make Ahead Tip: Prepare through Step 3. Wrap the roulade in plastic wrap and refrigerate for up to 8 hours. | Equipment: Kitchen string
  • Sparkling or still apple cider, alcoholic (hard) or nonalcoholic (sweet)--all work well in this recipe. Still cider produces a darker gravy with a slightly sweeter flavor.
  • To make fresh breadcrumbs: Trim crusts from bread. Tear the bread into pieces and process in a foodprocessor until coarse crumbs form. One slice makes about 1/3 cup.
  • How to butterfly a turkey breast:
  • 1. Place the turkey breast on a cutting board. Starting on the rounded side, make a horizontal cut with a chef's knife, about halfway down, to within 1 inch of the other side.
  • 2. Open up the breast. Cover the breast with plastic wrap. Pound with a rolling pin or meat mallet to an even 1/2-inch thickness. Remove plastic wrap.
  • 3. Spread the stuffing over the breast, leaving a 1-inch border on all sides. Roll the breast up into a cylinder.
  • 4. Secure the roulade by tying it with kitchen string at 1-inch intervals.

NUTRITION


Per serving: 222 calories; 5 g fat (1 g sat, 3 g mono); 74 mg cholesterol; 13 g carbohydrates; 0 g added sugars; 29 g protein; 2 g fiber; 248 mg sodium; 438 mg potassium.
Nutrition Bonus: 438 mg potassium (22% dv).
1 Carbohydrate Serving
Exchanges: 1/3 fruit, 1 vegetable, 3 1/2 very lean protein, 1 fat
So, send us pictures of your healthy holiday meal.  We can eat healthier together and still enjoy the holidays.  Don't be one of those people who abandons the healthy living lifestyle during the holidays and justifies it by setting a New Year's resolution to lose 25 pounds in 6 months.  By the third month, you will have abandoned that too!  Practice Health and Wellness every single day ---- holidays included!  Write to me at coachlynnshow@gmail.com or dearcoach@lynnjohnsonprosperity.com.  Ho Ho Ho!

Merry Future Christmas Tax Relief

Well, this is an article from Kiplinger that I want to share with you. Future Financial Scrooge will have to wait because after much ado and infighting, Congress has hammered out a tax plan for America that just might help us fill our stockings once again.  WHEW!!!!

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Tax Deal: What's in It for You?              by Mary Beth Franklin               Friday, December 17, 2010 

Your tax rates won't go up next year and for most, a bigger paycheck

American taxpayers can breathe a sigh of relief -- for now. After months of uncertainty, it’s now guaranteed that federal income-tax rates will remain at the same level for two more years. Most working Americans will see their paychecks increase in January thanks to a temporary reduction in payroll taxes, and the long-term unemployed can count on continued jobless benefits through 2011.

After a failed attempt to reshape the federal estate-tax provision that the Democratic leadership considered a giveaway to the wealthy, the House approved a massive tax package 277 to 148. The Senate approved an identical measure on Wednesday by an 81 to 19 margin. President Barack Obama signed the bill into law on Friday.
The compromise package hammered out by the president and congressional Republicans has been hailed as a needed second stimulus to prevent the economy from slipping back into recession. But it comes at a steep price. The $850-billion agreement was crafted just weeks after a presidentially appointed bipartisan commission outlined recommendations for trimming $4 trillion from the yawning federal budget deficit over the next ten years and warned about the dire consequences if political leaders don’t reign in federal spending.
In the long term, it is taxpayers who will pay the price in the form of inevitable future budget cuts, probable higher taxes, and possibly a reduced standard of living. But for now, Congress and the White House are sharing the role of Santa Claus, and Americans can’t wait to rip into their gifts.
Here’s a glimpse of what you can expect to unwrap over the next two years. (Batteries not included).
Stable Rates on Investment Income
One of the biggest concerns among investors has been what would happen to tax rates on long-term capital gains and dividends if the Bush tax cuts were allowed to expire on December 31. Some had contemplated selling appreciated assets before the end of the year just to take advantage of current low capital-gains rates. Without congressional action, tax rates on the profits of assets sold after more than a year would have increased to 20%, and dividends would have reverted to being taxed at ordinary income rates as high as 39.6% starting in 2011. But now that it’s clear that tax rates will remain the same through 2012, it’s back to year-end tax planning as usual: defer income, such as bonuses, into next year when possible and accelerate deductions into the current year to minimize your taxable income.
Tax rates on long-term capital gains and qualified dividends will remain at a maximum 15% through 2012, and those in the two lowest income-tax brackets -- 10% and 15% -- will continue to enjoy a 0% capital-gains rate. So if you decide to rebalance your portfolio before the end of the year, follow your usual course of action: If sales and capital-gains distributions to date have produced a net gain, consider selling assets that will produce a loss to offset the profits . . . and the tax bill that goes along with them. If you wind up with net long-term gains, you’ll pay just 15% on your profits. If your losers outweigh your winners, you can use up to $3,000 of losses to offset ordinary income, such as wages, and carry over any excess losses to future years.
Bigger Paychecks for Most
One of the major elements of the tax package is a one-year reduction in the payroll tax that funds Social Security. FICA taxes will drop from 6.2% to 4.2% for most workers. Since the tax applies to up to $106,800 in 2011, the tax cut is worth as much as $2,136 for a worker or $4,272 for a working couple. (The self-employed will pay 10.4% on income up to the cap, down from 12.4% in 2010.) The 1.45% portion of payroll taxes that funds Medicare will continue to apply to all earnings with no cap.
But not everyone will benefit from the payroll-tax holiday. Workers who do not participate in the Social Security system, such as some public-school teachers and many civil servants, will see no reduction in their payroll taxes. And some federal employees will get hit with a double whammy: no break on payroll taxes and a wage freeze next year.
Some lower-income workers may also feel as if Santa left them a lump of coal in their stocking. Although they will benefit from the lower payroll tax, the tax break will not be as generous as the Making Work Pay credit that reduced their taxes by up to $400 for individuals and up to $800 for married couples in 2010 (subject to income limits).
For example, a married couple making $36,000 will see their payroll taxes reduced by $720 in 2011. Compared to the $800 Making Work Pay tax credit they enjoyed in 2010, their taxes would increase by $80 next year. But for an individual earning $36,000, that same $720 reduction in payroll taxes in 2011 will represent a $320 tax cut compared to the $400 tax credit he or she enjoyed in 2010.
In general, higher income taxpayers will benefit across the board from the payroll-tax reduction. For example, a married couple earning $75,000 per year will pay $1,500 less in payroll taxes in 2011, nearly twice the size of the $800 tax credit they benefitted from in 2010. And a couple earning $150,000, who were not eligible for the Making Work Pay credit this year, will see their Social Security payroll taxes decline by the maximum $2,136 in 2011.
No Cap on Exemptions, Deductions
Upper-income taxpayers will also benefit from no limit on their itemized deductions and the personal exemptions that they claim for themselves, their spouse and dependents. In the past, those tax benefits were reduced above certain income levels. Caps on both deductions and personal exemptions were eliminated for 2010, and the legislative package extends those valuable tax breaks through 2012.
Middle Class Dodge the AMT
The compromise tax package boosts the exemption levels for the alternative minimum tax, protecting more than 20 million middle-income taxpayers from being snagged by the parallel tax system that disallows most tax deductions and exemptions. The AMT, designed 40 years ago to ensure that the loophole-savvy wealthy paid at least some taxes, has never been indexed for inflation. So over the decades, the AMT has morphed from a class tax into a mass tax, prompting Congress to approve temporary patches each year to lift the AMT exemption level and spare millions of middle-class taxpayers from becoming unintended victims of the stealth tax. The package increases the AMT exemption levels for 2010 and 2011.
More Breaks for Education Costs
The popular American Opportunity tax credit, worth up to $2,500 to offset the high cost of college, was scheduled to expire at the end of 2010. Now it has been extended through 2012. The full credit, which reduces your tax bill dollar-for-dollar, is available to individuals with incomes of up to $80,000 and married couples with joint income of up to $160,000. The credit phases out above those income levels, disappearing at $90,000 for individuals and $180,000 for married couples.
The tax package also extends more-generous contribution levels and qualified tax-free distributions for Coverdell Education Savings Accounts, which can be used to fund elementary- and secondary-school expenses in addition to college costs. Maximum contribution levels had been slated to drop from $2,000 to $500 per year beginning in 2011, and tax-free distribution would have been limited to college expenses. The package extends existing funding and distribution rules through 2012.
Two-Year Reprieves
A host of other popular tax breaks that had expired at the end of 2009 have been reinstated for 2010 and 2011. You’ll appreciate them when you file your taxes next spring. They include:


• a choice between deducting state sales taxes or state income taxes;
• a tax deduction of up to $4,000 for college tuition costs available to some taxpayers whose incomes are too high to qualify for the American Opportunity credit;
• a deduction of up to $250 that teachers can claim for our-of-pocket expenses for classroom supplies, even if they don’t itemize their deductions;
• and the ability of taxpayers who are age 70½ or older to donate up to $100,000 of their IRAs directly to a charity and exclude the amount of their donation from their taxable income.
More-Generous Estate Tax
The most controversial element of the tax package is a reinstatement of the federal estate tax, which had temporarily disappeared in 2010, with a higher exemption level and a lower rate than in the past. Beginning in 2011, estates valued at $5 million or less ($10 million or less for married couples) will escape the federal estate tax completely, and estates above those thresholds would be taxed at a 35% rate. House Democrats, who had been excluded from negotiations on the package, railed against the deal, which they claimed is a giveaway to the rich. But in the end, they failed in efforts to ratchet down the exemption to the $3.5 million level that had been in effect in 2009 before the estate tax expired and to increase the tax rate to 45%.
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