How to Gain Confidence

How to Gain Confidence

Exercise

Often enough, there is no big monster or dragon that you must sleigh in order to start living better. You need to sleigh the goblins inside of you that tell you not to be confident that you have anything special or worthwhile to offer. So, the easiest way to live better is to gain the confidence that you need to become bolder and trust that you can be a bigger, bolder self. Here is a technique:

Things You Will Need:

· A peaceful room

· A mirror that allows you to see your entire face

· Candle (maybe Lavender for aromatherapy)

1. Sit in Peace. Find a peaceful room where you will not be disturbed and set up your ritual or meditation area on the floor. Set up a mirror so that you can gaze into it comfortably. Find a pillow or something comfortable to sit on. Be mindful of safety when placing the candle near you. Put it somewhere it can’t fall over.

2. Light the candle. If you chose an aromatherapy candle, take a few deep breaths that help you to settle down. Looking in the mirror, concentrate on your eyes, and say to yourself: "I believe in myself." Repeat this statement softly as you continue to look at your reflection.

3. Listen to your inner voice. When you begin to doubt yourself or think negatively, whisper “Stop. I believe in myself.” Quiet yourself doubt by thinking about some positive things about yourself.

4. Accept that you will gain confidence. Get your Success Motivational Journal and write about the experience. Write five things that you are grateful about. Write five things that are positive about you. Write your doubts about yourself.

Take a moment to dispel those doubts by answering them one by one. End each entry with these words “I believe in myself.”

Remember: Gaining confidence comes from practice and diligent effort. You may need to repeat this exercise daily. Chances are, if you received or been given negative messages about yourself, you will have to unlearn them and learn how to think positively about yourself and your future. Repeat this exercise daily. Wake up 15 minutes earlier than usual so that you may tell yourself these messages every morning and start your day gaining confidence.

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Stop Thinking Negatively!

Your thinking directly effects your life. Have you ever monitored your thoughts for a day? How much negative self-talk did you engage in? Try this challenge: For the next 3 days, monitor your own thoughts to find out how many of them are self defeating, overly critical or just plain negative. If you want to change your life, first take responsibility for your thoughts. Then, every time you start to think negative thoughts, say STOP. Replace the negative thought with a positive one. Train your brain to think positively. Here is a technique that may help. Use these affirmations every day for a two week period. Say them as frequently as possible. Remember that you are the captain of your own ship. Negative thoughts help to sink that ship.

Affirmations for Thinking: I change my life by changing my thoughts. My thoughts are channels of love, power, and wisdom. I easily let go all the negative and self-defeating thoughts. I easily accept new and creative ideas which make my life better. I think good thoughts, I live good life. Today's Quote: Strong pure, and happy thoughts build up the body in vigor and grace. The body is a delicate and plastic instrument, which responds readily to the thoughts by which it is impressed, and habits of thought will produce their own effects, good or bad, upon it. James Allen

Greetings! I travel for business very frequently. There are places that I come to so frequently that there are people that I have established relationships with in these areas. In New York City, there is an old Russian massage therapist named Karla. I met her four years ago after I suffered a debilitating illness that made me so ill that I was a "shut in" for nine months. After I finally recovered, and began to travel for business again, I met Karla and began my new journey into understanding how "Wellness of mind, body and spirit" work together and should work together to help us create the life that we want. I became a wholehearted believer of integrating your thoughts, body and maintaining a strong spiritual base.

Happily, I am contracted to come to NYC at least once per month. Each and every time, I am overjoyed to go to the spa where Karla has worked for over 25 years. She is loving and nurturing. She babies me and my lonely spirit by wrapping me in warm towels from my head to the toes, giving me aromatherapy massages, warming up my slippers and robe, making me herbal tea, serving me dried vegetables, and threatening to take me home with her to make sure that I am taken care of properly. I hadn't had anyone fuss over me like that since my mother died over 23 years ago.

On this particular trip, I have been dealing with making major decisions about the direction that my radio show will take in the future. Typically, during these difficult economic times, I have been very diligent to generate enough monies to make to provide for my family and my staff. Even though I know I can do it, the stress definitely takes a toll on my body. I can't wait to schedule my visit to Karla.

I was stunned, shocked and absolutely emotionally devastated when the reservations operator on the other side of the telephone told me "I am sorry Lynn but Karla passed away suddenly on Sunday"

"Oh my God!" was all I could get out of my lips before I collapsed in a mountain of pain and tears. It is as if the life was sucked out of me and the last haven I had on earth was cruelly taken from me.

And within our lifetimes, there are several times when we feel that we have crossed the line to what more we can bear. There are times when we have no words to explain our pain or hurt, our sense of stability is yanked from us leaving us without strength.

It has now been another day since I received the news of Karla and when I woke up this morning in my h otel room, I knew that I must now reconstruct my life to keep myself well. I must make a commitment to continue to nurture and renew my mind, body and spirit. As Karla has surely embarked on her spiritual journey into heaven, I made these affirmations to remain WHOLE through life's trials and tribulations. These are affirmations I made to myself and I share them with you and invite you to join me in making them today:

Affirmations for Wholeness:
Today, I choose health and the fullness of bodily life.
I give thanks for the health that I have.
I make choices that are good for my physical condition.
My body quickly and willingly responds to my loving and healing thoughts.
The process of complete restoration takes place in me now. I am grateful.

Today's Quote:
Happiness is a mental state and can be fashioned by our thoughts.
Celebrate a new day to embrace wholeness in mind, body and spirit. Yesterday is gone, and tomorrow is not promised. Take today, and make something wonderful of it.

Prosper!
Coach Lynn

Today's Blog is in response to a note from Shelly from California. Shelly asked for some standard guidelines to find healthy love:

Coach Lynn's simple advice for those who want to be loved:
1. Treat your Partner how you want to be treated.
2. Even if someone "chooses" you, decide whether you want to "choose" them. You have a right to choose you will be with.
3. You can't "change" the person you're involved with and you shouldn't have to.
4. If you can't be yourself, the relationship is no good for you.
5. Don't sabotage your relationship. You're worthy of being loved.
6. Don't bring your past relationship into your present one-especially old baggage.
7. Remember that your partner is not your personal psychotherapist or Coach. Hire a professional if you need help.
8. Negotiate the boundaries of your relationship on key matters like: finances, expectations, fidelity, children, the future. If your partner keeps crossing over the line, there is no respect!

Here is a sizzling hot vital tip for lovers:
Invariably, you will not completely agree on everything. However, when you don't agree and it results in a "fight" agree to ALWAYS FIGHT FOR THE GOOD OF THE RELATIONSHIP not for personal validation. You should already know you are a valuable human being!

And finally...Don't forget to laugh and enjoy your time together. Life is so short!
Prosper!

“Do you have ADD?”

Living with ADD is a challenge. It is like being flooded with thoughts all of the time. It is hard to concentrate, even when you want to, can be even more difficult when you are tired. Your attention span is so short that if you are listening to me right now, with ADD, your mind may have already wandered two or three times.

Symptoms of Inattention:

• Often fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, work, or other activities
• Often has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities
• Often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly
• Often does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties in the workplace (not due to oppositional behavior or failure to understand instructions)
• Often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities
• Often avoids, dislikes, or is reluctant to engage in tasks that require sustained mental effort (such as schoolwork or homework)
• Often loses things necessary for tasks or activities (e.g., toys, school assignments, pencils, books, or tools)
• Is often easily distracted by extraneous stimuli
• Is often forgetful in daily activities

Symptoms of Hyperactivity:

• Often fidgets with hands or feet or squirms in seat
• Often leaves seat in classroom or in other situations in which remaining seated is expected
• Often runs about or climbs excessively in situations in which it is inappropriate (in adolescents or adults, may be limited to subjective feelings of restlessness)
• Often has difficulty playing or engaging in leisure activities quietly
• Is often "on the go" or often acts as if "driven by a motor"
• Often talks excessively

Symptoms of Impulsivity:

• Often blurts out answers before questions have been completed
• Often has difficulty awaiting turn
• Often interrupts or intrudes on others (e.g., butts into conversations or games)

Symptoms must have persisted for at least 6 months.

KEEP YOUR MENTAL FREEWAY CLEAR!

Your mind is a terrible thing to waste and to fill with waste!

The health of your brain depends not only on how much (or little) fat you eat but on what kind it is. Intellectual performance requires the specific type of fat found most commonly in fish, known as omega-3 fatty acids. Even diets that adhere to commonly recommended levels of fats, but the wrong kind, can undermine intelligence. What makes this finding awkward is that certain oils widely touted as healthy for the heart are especially troublesome for the mind.

Omega-3s are known to be particularly crucial constituents of the outer membrane of brain cells. It is through the fat-rich cell membrane that all nerve signals must pass. In addition, as learning and memory forge new connections between nerve cells, new membranes must be formed to sheathe them. All brain cell membranes continuously need to refresh themselves with a new supply of fatty acids. A growing amount of research suggests that the omega-3s are best suited for optimal brain function.

While consuming too much fat overall and too much saturated fat, many North Americans fail to consume enough omega-3s. And the polyunsaturated oils widely recommended as healthful for the heart and widely used in cooking, frying and prepared food—corn, safflower and sunflower oils—have almost no omega-3s. Instead they are loaded with omega-6s. You need a proper balance of omega-6s and omega-3s. Canola oil and walnut oil are highly recommended.

It's possible to boost alertness, memory and stress resistance by supplying food components that are precursors of important brain neurotransmitters. One of them is choline, the fat-like B vitamin found in eggs. Studies show that choline supplementation enhances memory and reaction time in animals, especially aging animals. It also enhances memory in people. Choline supplementation also minimizes fatigue. In one study, choline given during a 20-mile run improved running time by a significant amount...

Mood and mental performance are powerfully influenced by the B vitamins. So if you don’t want to get a traffic jam on your mental freeway, be mindful that you alone control the ability to turn down the opportunity to FRET!